Anxious

Today, at this moment, my heart almost stops - listening to Izrin yelling and arguing with his fiancee on the phone. He is supposed to go to work but the argument seems to go on. I think both of them are not ready for marriage. Haidi is just as hard-headed as Izrin with huge ego and doesn't seem to have diplomacy to deal with anger and Izrin's temper. Both of them have egos bigger than any tempayan! I am worried and wonder whether they can make it in marriage. Izrin has told me that whatever happens, he and Haidi will never break-up as their relationship is strong enough to brave the troubled waters. Oh God, help them to mature and deal with whatever differences they have with much patience and understanding.
Maz has threatened Izrin that she will take me to Dubai on his wedding day if he continues to create stress for me. Both Izrin and Haidi apologised and promised to behave but it doesn't seem to last.
What erked me is that if he is so angry with Haidi and yelled at her to stop, why in heaven's name doesn't he just turn off the phone? Why must he continue the conversation? Why must Haidi insist creating argument which he refused to discuss? They are like little children playing house with a game 'you hit me and I hit you back'. Such immaturity!! Both of them blame each other but in actual fact both are at fault. If Haidi insists on changing Izrin according to her mould, she is going to be disappointed and the relationship won't last. I have talked to her about acceptance and respect of Izrin's personality - he is not as sociable as Haidi, with very few close friends. Who his friends are, is his choice and nobody can force him to choose friends. That, he is much like me is undeniable. I don't have many friends either, only a few very close ones. I am not into social gatherings with little or aimless conversation. I prefer to be on my own doing meanigful things to me. Izrin is much like that whereas Haidi is sociable with heaps of friends. I know Izrin doesn't stop Haidi from socialising with her friends but he is not too keen to move in her social circles. To her, he lacks confidence but in actual fact, that is his preference. The absence of understanding and acceptance could be blown out of proportion. I am tired and sad actually. I hope Maz doesn't know this as she will jump. I have listened to both sides and tried to make them see things in different perspectives but the change is temporary. I am not siding my son. He is just at fault as Haidi. He has to learn to manage his temper -shortfused but quick to cool down. I feel like knocking both their heads together to get some sense inside.
Can they make it in marriage? This is my prayer now and in my Hajj. I prayed so hard that they could. I love Haidi and I treat her like my daughter and looking forward to have her as my daughter-in-law. They really need to grow up. Izrin, Haidi, please grow up!!!!!!