My son's wedding

After the akad, Izrin signing marriage document. 24 Oct 2010.





















Mom is behind Izrin, to lend support before the akad.












Loving hug to my son after he became a husband.












Maz arranging the hantaran. I can rely on her to play my role.








Selamat pengantin baru to my young man, Izrin and his lovely wife Haidi. I heaved a sigh of relief to see my rebellious son is happily wedded to his long-time girl-friend, Haidi. To me even though he is a husband and all grown up, is still my baby whom I dote. With my two daughters, they are the light of my world and I will die for them. I have difficulty convincing Izrin that I love him - it has been so since young. His sisters sometimes don't understand my devotion to this son of mine as they often enough saw him treat me so unkindly. They suggest that I should just forget about him. I suppose it's hard to understand mother's unconditional love unless you are a mother yourself. Ika will understand this having Rania in her life and I hope Maz and Izrin will, once they have children of their own one day. I am really proud of my two daughters and my son.
Since Izrin's got engaged last year, I have been looking forward to the wedding. Unfortunately, just a few days before the wedding, we had a fight and I almost gave up, not wanting to have anything to do with him or the wedding. Maz was so upset with the incident, she drove to PD almost at midnight to console me. I do appreciate that and know that she loves me. Ika was upset too and kept on calling to make sure I was OK. But that had passed and forgotten and everything was OK. Izrin apologized profusely and I hope he will learn to be grateful and really appreciate and love me as his mother by showing respect.
With my sister-in-law, Joriah's help, she prepared his simple and elegant hantaran which I liked very much. I am also very happy to see almost everybody in my family turned up, including nieces and nephews and their children.











Part of the hantaran prepatred by sister-in-law, Joriah Johan. Visit her blog joriahjohan.blogspot.com



















Befotre the akad.









On 24 October at 8.00 am most of my family members gathered at my house to go with Izrin for his akad nikah ceremony. Many went first to wait near the bride's house. We left the house at 8.45 am and the bride's side called to say that the Imam was already there. With a convoy of cars we couldn't drive fast in case some cars get lost. On the way, Rudi, Izrin's best friend and best man, called to say that he has to stop at a petrol station to go to toilet. My poor son, weak stomach and nervousness made his stomach go haywire. We laughed and teased him after that.
The akad ceremony was a boring event. The Imam was so long-winded with negative stories about behaviour of some couples he did akad nikah. I was disgusted. What happened to other couples have nothing to do with my son's marriage. The blabbering was interrupted when Izrin said he has to go to toilet again. Some sighed with relief with the break, some giggled. I know that my brother, Mahir, who led the entourage on my side, has tuned off. The Imam questioned about rukun Islam. Why was he turning the akad nikah ceremony into an examination slot for religious knowledge? Both the bride and groom have attended the marriage course and there is no need to waste time, trying to make the groom looked ignorant with such questions? I wonder why the Jabatan Agama Islam does not train their Imams to akad the couples graciously. Many such religious persons (including other religions) suffer from 'I am holier than thou' attitude.
Anyway, the reception at Bukit Jelutong went on well. It was a small do for me but so glad to see many of my invited guests came, including long time friends whom I have not seen for years. I invited just a handful of ex-students, not because I am selective but by accident I managed to hand over the invitation by hand. My apology to them - it's not because I have favourites but it was just convenience.

Izrin and Haidi after bersanding with Rania.







Family photo. Left: Maz, me, Izrin holding Rania, Haidi, Ika and husband Justin.










Left: Maz, sister-in-law, Katleen (Nor Ariffah), me, the groom and the bride, Rania, her mom Ika and dad, Justin. Extreme right is Rudi, Izrin's best friend and best man at the wedding.







Thank you very much to all my guests who made time to come . I do appreciate it.


Photo with the bride and groom, Anis (my ex-student) and husband, Omar.







To Izrin and Haidi, my doa that both of you are happy and successful in your life. You have a long way to go. Good luck and may Allah bless you both.