Monday, July 2, 2012

Why do I feel bad?

Today I am sending letters to the developer who handles the housing project on my piece of land and my mother's lands in Tg. Kling. When I was in Kuching I gave power of attorney to my oldest brother to manage the project with the developer. There was complaint from one or two siblings who questioned why I gave that power to him. I knew there would be problem because this brother of mine's decision is always through his wife's mouth. There is not much bonding between her and our family members but he is my oldest brother and I have to respect that. I am not happy myself because I was not consulted on any decision made by both of them, even though the land is under my name. At first I wanted to give that power of attorney to my 5th brother but he was also as bad. I have given him my file containing all documents about the development of the land to him and requested him to help but out of anger and bad temper towards me, he threw the files away. His wife told me herself.  I didn't have any documents left with me. And he has the cheek to question why I gave the power of attorney to my oldest brother. Like my oldest brother's wife, his wife also has to learn to shut up and not to meddle in my family's affairs. I was also livid when my youngest sister questioned me why she cannot have her share of the lands under my name. I told her not to be greedy. My parents have given her a house and land worth much more, all for herself and none of us question that. My mother specifically told me, the other pieces of land are to be divided equally among the others as she has hers already. I told her to pray and to bersyukur to Allah for what she gets. I hope she remembers what I told her to do and not to do. 
I know I am doing the best I can to carry out my mother's wishes about these lands. Allah has been very generous to me  and I have no intention to jeopardize this by taking what does not belong to me.
So all the letters I sent to the developer today is about terminating the power of attorney as I am taking control of the situation now.I decided to make my own decision whether they like it or not. I know I am right but why do I feel bad inside?

The moral of the story - do not leave harta to your children. Or do like I did. Divide and transfer your harta while you're still alive. If not, your children will bicker after you're dead - tak tenteram roh kita. That's why I am angry. I want my parents's spirits to be at peace. May Allah help me in executing the trust given to me. Al-fatihah to my parents. 

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