Rania

Rania is going to be 1 year old on Saturday 16 April 2011. She has acquired a few skills that sometimes frustrate her mom, Ika. Look at the Child Ego State where the Little Professor is found. I am talking about Transactional Analysis. Watch how the little person manipulates mom, dad and especially grandma. That's how some adults play this game of manipulation to get their way. Rania knows that Nenek will melt under her huge eyes when she wants something. So when mom says no, it's Nenek she turned to. I can't help it from giving in, she is so adorable.
This morning when I came out from my room, Rania saw me and she clapped her hands and said 'Nenek' so happily with a big smile on her face. How to resist her?
Taking her to the mall or anywhere is quite a handful. She has a will of her own and drag my hand to go where she wants to go. She got a lot of attention and admiring glances, most commented on her huge eyes and long eye-lashes and her fair skin. I think my little grand daughter is going to be a ravishing beauty when she grows up.
Last Sunday, I saw how a mother reacted when she thought her child was in pain. Ika is a superb mother though she complained that raising Rania is a handful. She panicked seeing Rania suffered. Somehow Rania went through this phase of refusing to take milk, eat or drink. As a result of lack of fluid in the body, she constipated badly. For 3 days, she tried to move her bowels but failed because of hard stools. Poor Rania, she cried in pain. Child clinics were closed on Sundays. Justin was in Sydney attending a workshop, so Ika, still in her night dress, and I have to rush Rania to Assunta Hospital Emergency and the doctor inserted enema which made her poo a few minutes later. That night she took her bottle after a strike for the last few days. It was such a relieve to see her back to normal.











However, Rania is still a choosy eater. The amount of noise, baby talks, sing-songs, Ika has to do when feeding her is like talking to a house full of kids. Coaxing Rania to eat is a big job.
I told Ika that Ifelt the same way when at 3 months, Maz constipated and I have to rush her to Universiti Hospital emergency very early in the morning. I suppose Ika understands a bit now what mother's love is, having Rania teaching her. When it comes to child safety and welfare, a mother will forgo comfort, style, looking good, self-safety and food until she is confident that her child is OK.
Every n0w and again, Rania will call out 'Mok' and looks for him at the back room. She will point out where Mok was buried but doesn't know the concept of death. It breaks my heart to see her missing our Mok. I miss and still in pain of losing him. No other pet will be able to replace my Mok. While writing this I am under great anxiety over old unresolved issues but I don't have Mok in my lap to talk to. I miss you tremendously, Mok!!!!!!